As coaches and mentors, we are often faced with a dilemma. If someone is not ready and not motivated, we will refer them to a marriage counselor or other professional. How can we be compassionate when people are very resistant to change? How can we disconnect with compassion?
I must admit, that this is a challenge for me. How many of us, even after years of trying continue to have negative self talk? How many of our clients come with a history of negative self talk, lost jobs, lost relationships and loss of self? How can we encourage ourselves and others to move towards balance and joy? Sometimes, I can be to harsh and tell people that they are lying to themselves or being too hard on themselves. Is it compassionate to just gloss over peoples resistance to change? Can we be confrontational and also be compassionate? Is it compassionat to ignore for instance peoples comorbid addictions, or self harm or depression? If people are not directed to the proper resources the consequences might be very negative. Where does honesty hurt?
As usual, I have more questions than answers. Today’s article is full of information. Here are a few examples.
The Compassion Paradox: Discover why self-compassion is crucial for ADHD success, yet often misunderstood and difficult to achieve. Mar 22, 2025 , Dr Sara Tooky
People with ADHD experience RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Disorder) at an estimated 95% rate Dr Sara Tookey, March 22, 2025
For me, I include daily gardening and exercise, making time to make time to take a break, I wear my bow tie as a reminder that I am not in charge. My daily practice includes flossing, brushing and using a water pic for my oral hygiene. ( this is not only physically helpful, but it is a daily reminder to be good to myself).
I am often reminding myself that good is good enough.
Review todays article and see how many daily habits you have developed that are self compassionate. How can we remind other people that this is difficult? When I meet a new client, or a new person, I often say, “Just a reminder, you are not broken.” People tell me that they have never heard anyone tell them that they are not flawed or broken.
https://www.truenorth-psychology.com/post/self-compassion-essential-for-high-functioning-adhd
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